college boys 1

Boys are crazy. Well, maybe not necessarily psychologically, but I guess some drive me crazy. Sometimes I find it hard to understand where they are coming from, for the male perspective is often very different from their female counterparts.

In college, I find that men usually, for the most part, have a competitive, testosterone driven way about their interactions with females. The girls in college are often objectified and seen as something that is "fuckable." This sad truth occurs on a daily basis in the college lifestyle. Sex isn't something that is something special, a representation of the emotional togetherness, a hope for the existence of love, a beautiful concept of two becoming one. Sex is a recreational activity, a free for all, and just a behavior that satiates the needs of two or, at sometimes, more.

I mean sure, "fuck buddies" and the idea uninvested relationships are easier and more convenient for the lifestyle of the average college kid, but I believe that everyone wants to feel loved and appreciated. If I were to let someone see the hidden realms of my life, I hope that person is special enough to respect me and care for me a lot, and by a lot, I really do mean a lot. 

I love the feeling that someone appreciates me and that I mean something to them. I'm not opposed to the idea of "fuck buddies," but I'd rather be intimate with someone that I care about and vise versa. Or else, what are we different from animals? We have the capability of being compassionate and caring for others more so than ourselves and our own needs. We have the power to love, and to put others before us. Something that I learned recently is that love is base on putting another person's needs before yours and committing to that person. Lust is based on your own selfishness, your own desires and fantasies, so when you see the next best thing, you quickly move on.

Yeah, it's not my position to judge or make remarks on a lifestyle some people may live by, but I just can't help but to wonder if everyone desires to be loved. I mean who doesn't want to be loved? People can fear love, but that doesn't mean you don't want to be loved. I'm not sure. I'm just going to leave on that note. Peace!